- Testing brides capability to adjust in the family, with the help of earth-pots.
In many parts of Bihar, after the wedding, the mother-in-law places earthen elders in the house simultaneously. The balancing of pots symbolises how well a bride can adjust to her new family and the responsibilities of the new life pot on the newly wedded bride’s head. After this, more earthen pots are added to make a pile. The bride is expected to balance them and touch the feet of the elders in the house simultaneously. The balancing of pots symbolises how well a bride can adjust to her new family and the responsibilities of the new life. Seriously? Is it really a measure?
- Pulling the nose of the groom during the ceremony.
Gujarati weddings have a ceremony called Ponkvu or Ponkhana where the groom is welcomed by his mother-in-law, who first performs an aarti and then playfully pulls the groom’s nose. This is a playful way for the bride’s family to remind the groom that he has come to their door to marry their daughter and he has to learn to be humble and grateful.
Can’t imagine how embarrassing that can be..!
- Bride’s mother can not be a part of the marriage ceremony.
On the day of the wedding, all the married women from the bride’s family rise at dawn and perform a Ganga aarti to invite the Goddess to the wedding. They believe that the holy river will bless the bride and keep her happy always. Also, in many of the Bengali weddings, the mother of the bride is not allowed to see the wedding ceremony.
I don’t understand what is going wrong with rituals?
- Welcoming of Baraat with tomatoes and potatoes.
In Sarsaul, a small town near Kanpur, instead of being welcomed with an aarti and flowers, the bridegroom and his baarat is greeted with tomatoes and potatoes. These are thrown on the groom’s family and friends along with a string of swear words. People believe that a relationship that begins on a bad note ends with love.
- Tearing grooms clothes apart on the wedding day.
Before the wedding, the Sindhis perform a ritual called saanth. An anklet is tied around the right foot of the bride and the groom (in their respective homes), by the priest. After this, seven married women pour oil on the bride and the groom’s head. Then both of them have to wear a new shoe on their right foot and break an earthen lamp with it. This considered as a good omen. To end the ceremony, the groom’s relatives tear off his clothes to ward off the evil eye.
And finally, a supplementary ritual for you to laugh on.
- KAAL RATRI, couple is directed to sleep separate on their first night
After the couple reaches the groom’s house and the initial welcome ceremony is over they are separated for the night, probably to get a refreshing sleep and prepare for the next day’s final wedding ceremony.
Well, this sounds disgusting..isn’t it?