If you are not living under a rock, you probably heard the story about the divorce story between ‘Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’. After 12 years and 6 kids, ‘Brangelina’ ended their relationship and our belief in love too. ‘Brangelina’ breakup news is so big that it completely overshadowed an important UN Summit of Refugees and Migrants, Media giants like BBC and NBC, don’t even care to talk about something which would directly help more than 65 million refugees and migrants and care more about the power couple breakup. They both have atleast 10 different articles on the couple, and not one on UN summit.
Not just BBC or NBC, but even Indian media outlets care more about ‘Brangelina’ breakup than our daily life crisis. Which leads to a question, why we care more about the celebrity divorces and breakups?
We are still not over the fact that Shahid Kapoor and Kareena Kapoor never got back together, we are still in hope for Deepika and Ranbir reunion (even though we know that Deepika is with Ranveer, now), Still we have hopes for Jennifer Garner and New Batman Ben Affleck, Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez, Hrithik Roshan and Sussanne khan to name a few. There are certain couples in my everyday life whom we love so much that if they announced a split, we might need to take a personal day off. Why we care so much? For the same reason you do.
According to recent study, Couples who we see as “perfect” together let us hold onto the belief that love is all you need.
Katherine Schafler, New York City-based licensed psychotherapist said to Independent co.uk that: When celebrities break up, that de-romanticized, very adult truth about love is brought back to the forefront of our minds. I mean, here are the most celebrated, attractive, wealthy, interesting, gifted humans on earth, and they’re getting rejected? We feel an understandable sense of, “If they can’t figure it out, how I supposed to get it right?”
What I’ve learned in my own life and in my work as a therapist is this: Love is absolutely fundamental, but it is not the be all, end all. Deep down, we all know this. But if we let ourselves think about it too much, it makes us kind of sad. Katherine Schafler added.
We need love, but we also need someone with whom we can communicate effectively, someone who shares our notion of what commitment means, someone with whom we can build financial intimacy and trust. Relationships are founded on love, yes, but they remain standing on a collection of many other (less glamorous) pillars.
But before you start binge-listening to Arijit Singh sad songs or Adele’s ‘Hello’ again and again, take some time. Love is not, in fact, all you need—but that doesn’t mean it’s not a beautiful start.
By: Saket Sharma