We Indians are strange creatures. Even as numerous studies show that more of us than ever are having casual sex, it’s still a difficult subject to discuss openly without at least a hint of judgement—particularly when we’re talking about women, because of our culture and traditions where sex is a strict no-no before marriage, casual sex is basically non-existent in the society. Even if you are open minded person, the assumption is that hooking up basically means a committed relationship. Bringing home the girl you met before last call on Thursday night needs to be your girlfriend, right? And, of course, there’s that whole “eroding the morals of Indian ancient civilization” thing to worry about, as well.
But, if hookup culture is really so destructive to our society, why do we keep doing it? A new study conducted by NYU researchers paints a (positive) new picture of one-night stands and the strapping lads and lasses who have them: For those who have liberal views on sex, casual encounters have a positive effect on psychological well-being. The research, published this month in the journal Social Psychology and Personality Science, involved 371 undergrads who were surveyed periodically over nine months on both their sex lives (frequency of sex, number of partners, and level of enjoyment and agency felt during the act) and their emotional health. In addition, at the beginning of the study, the students were asked to report their “sociosexual orientation,” a measure of “propensity toward casual sex” based on responses to questions about behaviour, attitudes, and desire.
In a twist that would surprise maybe three people in the universe, results showed that subjects who were sociosexually unrestricted reported lower stress and greater overall emotional health after having casual sex. As the study authors put it, “The effects of casual sex depend on the extent to which this behaviour is congruent with one’s general personality tendencies.” In other words, engaging in casual sex can be an empowering experience for those who embrace it
So, if you and your hook up partner is okay for taking a casual approach then go for it, It’s okay to be in love with someone but it’s also okay for an individual to take casual approaches in life, no one has any rights to judge you weather you are a boy or a girl.