We all have that friend in our lives who has trouble balancing their role as a boyfriend/ girlfriend and as a best friend. When they’re single, they were your right-hand man, going to the bars with you and practically living in your apartment. But then it happened.
They came over one night to tell you that they’ve been seeing someone and they’re really happy and isn’t this great? You fake excitement and tell them, “Oh my god, that’s amazing. I must know more!” but in your mind, you’re thinking, “Andddd I’m never going to see you again. Bye!”
It’s not because you’re jealous, It’s because you know that your BFF disappears whenever they get into a relationship. Here today, gone tomorrow.
They get consumed with being in love and only come back when things have gone to crap and they need someone to cry to. When they reappear with tears running down their cheeks, your first instinct is to be like “Screw you, like why are you here now. I don’t want to talk to you just go back to him/her. But then what else you could do just be a good friend and console your best friend.
You might end up forgiving them though and become super close friends with them again. That is until they find someone new to love and then they’re gone, and the Cycle repeats.
The first few months of a relationship are always intoxicating. It’s like you’re on drugs and going on a love binge. so it’s totally acceptable for you to ignore texts and become a selfish lovesick monster! It’s a beautiful period and as their friend, you really have to set aside any hurt feelings you might have and just let your friend drink the love
You’re going to feel like the needy single friend who’s too demanding, even though that’s typically not the case. You’ll also be worried that your friend will bite back by saying, “You don’t know what it’s like because you’re single.”
Situation come when your friend realises and come back to you to spend time with you but the case is different they might spend time with you but actually they are here because they feel guilty about leaving you alone. And at that moment you get a feeling kindly don’t EVER insult our close friendship with a catch-up lunch. Those are only reserved for friends from high school and people we’ve fallen out of touch with.
We have to accept that, as we get older, it will be girlfriend before friends more often. And that’s okay. Someone isn’t being a bad friend just because they’re enjoying life on that love tip. Give them space but also recognise when they’ve gone from being a friend in love to being just a crappy friend.