As William Shakespeare had said, ‘What’s in the name?’ But the wrong name at the wrong time may crash land you in the vicious circle of complications where you desperately want to find a way out but slip back from where you started. And one of that very inaccurate time of saying that name is when you are having a ‘quality time’ with your partner.
That name of your Ex while having a quality time with your partner will surely ruin your night, and maybe your relationship with him (or her). But have you ever gave it a thought about as why your partner say his or her ex’s name during that special time of yours? No? Well, we are here to solve this mystery.
According to specialist, its natural and just what the brain does
“When you’re in a state of euphoria, you conjure up things that had happened before, because you’re in a state that had happened before”
The specialist added.
It may seem insulting when you’re at your most vulnerable and most intimating stage, and your partner calls you by your ex’s name. According to the specialist, it’s a good thing that your partner calls you by their ex’s name.
“Let’s assume that the person had a very special former lover who made him or her a certain thrill. Those sexual thrills, quality of orgasms, and feelings of closeness were associated with that person and his or her name” The specialist added
So when your partner gets your name wrong, it’s only because the closeness you’ve created reminds them of previous intimacy.
This also helps explain why you’re more likely to accidentally call your lover by the name of an ex, rather than a family member or friend.
So what can be done to avoid getting into such situation?
The specialist suggests that talking will help. “Start talking where you are getting it wrong” try to figure out a way to a happy ending”