5 Kinky Sex Ideas from 50 Shades Series That Are Actually Worth Trying!
You don’t have to read the books to know the gist of this erotica saga: It’s kinky AF. But having read (and hated) all 3 books, I’m aware of the stigma that there’s a lot of not-so-great sex stuff going on. So, in light of the release of Fifty Shades Darker, I decided to take a look to see if there were any kinky sex ideas actually worth trying out at home. And guess what? There sure are!
1. Foreplay That Keeps Going and Going and Going…
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“Do you want to play this game?” he continues, holding up the balls. “You can always take them out if it’s too much.” —page 127, Fifty Shades Darker
Foreplay doesn’t have to stay in between the sheets (or in your Red Room of Pain). If you take away anything from the Fifty Shades saga, let it be the idea that continued foreplay is not only encouraged, but required. Just the possibility of sex can be as hot as the real deal! Maybe you don’t wear your underwear to a family engagement. Or you slip in some kegel balls for your weekend stroll through the park, so each step reminds you of what else you’d like to put up there. Keeping your mind focused on sex with your partner throughout the day creates a lustful bond that’s bound to end in a very good explosion.
2. Nipple Play — With Ice
“I hear another clink of ice, and then I can feel it around my right nipple as he tugs the left one with his lips.” —page 194, Fifty Shades of Grey
While I may not be a fan of the books, the amount of nipple play in the saga was very…satisfying. I’m a huge fan of nipple play. And if you have sensitive nipples, then you already know the rush of sensation that flows from your breast all the way down to your, ahem, ~inner goddess~ when someone sucks on yours.
3. Not Moving or Talking
“If you struggle I will tie your feet, too. If you make a noise, Anastasia, I will gag you.” —page 192, Fifty Shades of Grey
Have you ever tried not moving while inching closer and closer to orgasm? It takes practice to not allow your body to pulse and move with each sweeping sensation, but once you’ve mastered the technique, holy shit it’s so great. Think of what an orgasm basically feels like: sensations building up on top of each other over and over until you erupt. By keeping your body still, the buildup is magnified. It’s even hotter if your partner instructs you not to talk, trust me. Good going, Christian Grey.
4. Hair Pulling
“He gathers my hair and braids it quickly and efficiently before fastening it with the tie. He tugs my braid, pulling my head back. “Good thinking, Mrs. Grey,” he whispers in my ear, then nips my earlobe.” —page 112, Fifty Shades Freed
Obviously you’ll need medium/long hair for this move, but so hot, right?! And wait! Does your partner have long hair and/or a man bun? Grip his hair and bring his face between your breasts: He’ll enjoy the view and the fact that his lady is taking complete control in the boudoir. You’ll love the new angles being reached inside you. But remember, communication is key. Make sure you (or your partner’s) head or neck is not in any pain while firmly grabbing his hair — nothing is a bigger buzzkill than a pulled muscle in your neck.
5. Getting Creative With Bondage
“Look familiar?” he asks, unable to conceal his smile. Jeez… the plastic cable ties. Restocking at Clayton’s! It all becomes clear. I gape up at him as adrenaline spikes though my body anew. Okay – that got my attention – I’m awake now.” —page 327, Fifty Shades of Grey
Don’t rush to the sex shop every time you want to be tied up. Maybe something catches your fancy during your weekend jaunt through Lowe’s. See that extension cord near the couch? That bad boy can make a mean bowline when the bondage mood strikes. A tie? Your thong? What I’m saying is, think outside the box. The spontaneity in both the sexing and the props will rev you and your partner up immediately.
This article was first published in Cosmopolitan.